Tips & TRicks
Healthcare and Health Insurance
Dating a separated woman
Is she legally married?
I read a lot of questions about relationships and dating here. One important legal aspect is often overlooked: Is she legally married?
Divorce is not possible in the Philippines (except for Muslims). Even if a couple has a legal court separation, they are still legally married in the eyes of the law.
A lot of women are legally married but separated. Most of the times you can have a good relationship with them without any problems. The legal husband is gone and doesn’t care, and she doesn’t care for him.
But this relationship is technically illegal. If a legally married woman has a sexual relationship with another man, it is considered ADULTERY. This is a criminal offense. Adultery is illegal for women and can be punished. Adultery doesn’t exist for the man, but he can be accused as an accessory.
The legal consequences are severe. If the case goes to court, both the woman and her foreign partner can be convicted. A conviction carries a prison sentence and a fine. For a foreigner, this also means deportation after serving the sentence. .
The good news is that it is a “PRIVATE CRIME”. The police will not arrest you on their own. The legal husband must be the one to file the criminal complaint. But here is the real-world risk: This law is often used for blackmail. If you know that the ex is still around, lives not too far, or his family lives close by, you can be a target. If the husband is angry, jealous, or just wants money, he or his family can threaten to file an adultery case against you unless you pay “hush money”, or just to embarrass you and ruin your reputation. I know of expats who have been dragged into long, expensive legal battles because they assumed a “separated” status was enough.
If you want to be absolutely sure that there is no risk, ask her for a CENOMAR. This is a “Certificate of No Marriage” issued by the Philippine Statistics Authority (PSA). It shows her official civil status. She might be shy to tell you about her real situation, but this document gives you the facts. Don’t take the risk. If the CENOMAR shows she is still married, do not move in together or start a physical relationship until her annulment is fully finalized by a court. It takes time and money, but it is the only way to be 100% safe.
Moving Money to the Philippines
- Direct Bank Transfers You can wire money directly from your foreign bank to a Philippine bank account. However, this is often not the most cost-effective method. Sending banks frequently charge high outgoing wire fees, and the exchange rates they offer are usually poor, meaning you lose a significant amount of money on the conversion.
- ATMs and Cash Withdrawals Using your foreign debit card at a local ATM is convenient but comes with costs. Philippine ATMs charge a standard 250 PHP access fee for foreign cards. Additionally, most machines limit withdrawals to just 10,000 PHP per transaction, though a few allow up to 20,000 PHP. On top of the local fee, your home bank may charge international withdrawal fees. Pro tip: If you are from the US, look into banks like Charles Schwab, which reimburse all global ATM fees, effectively wiping out the 250 PHP charge.
- Opening Bank Accounts and E-Wallets To integrate into the local economy, you’ll want a local bank account. Traditional banks generally require an Alien Certificate of Registration (ACR) I-Card. The good news is that most nationalities, including US citizens, can open these accounts with an ACR I-Card and passport.
- What about GCash? Yes, it is possible to open a basic GCash account without an ACR I-Card using just your passport. However, to become fully verified—which gives you higher transaction limits and access to all features—you will eventually need to provide your ACR I-Card.
- Digital Transfer Services: Wise and Remitly For moving money from your home country, digital apps are your best friends. Wise allows you to hold money in various currencies. You can keep your funds in USD and exchange them to PHP only when the rate is favorable. You can then transfer directly to a Philippine bank or withdraw with a Wise ATM card for a small fee.
- Remitly is another fantastic digital remittance platform. It offers “Express” for instant transfers and “Economy” for lower fees. Remitly allows you to send money to a Philippine bank, directly into a GCash wallet, or for cash pickup at local partner outlets.
- Western Union If you are traveling to remote provinces or need to send cash to someone without a bank account, Western Union is still king. You can send money from your home country, and the recipient can withdraw it in physical cash at thousands of partner offices across the Philippines.